I’m terrible at dating in general, but my go-to online dating move is to get a message from someone cute, and never ever respond. So, when Robyn Exton, the CEO at Her (stylized as HER), a dating app centered on lesbian, bi, and queer women, asked me if I was interested in their latest study on the best hacks for their app, a small, scathing, and very single voice inside me hissed, "You need this." The PR photos didn’t hurt.
Whether it’s Fluid, Lesbian, Bisexual, Pansexual you name it, in dating, any label is better than none." So, with my ideal eight pictures uploaded, and my sexual orientation labeled, I waited for the likes to roll in. About two minutes after I finished signing up, someone wanted to chat, which meant she liked one of my photos.
I had already been messaging non-binary people, so it didn’t change how I was using the app.
The study found that, "after 44 messages you are most likely to get a positive response when you go for the digits." Because users are relying mostly on photos (although there is an option to include small text boxes on your profile) to get a sense of who they want to message, users go into each interaction without a lot of information.
But as I was scrolling, I accidentally liked someone who was clearly out of my league. "Hey" was four times more popular as a conversation opener according to Her's study.
I will never stop feeling like my thumbs are too big to navigate an i Phone. My first message on Her was this stunningly creative gem: "Hey how was your weekend? Once I got over the initial fear of liking photos, I became a photo-liking fiend.