In some cases, the guy is just drawn to a woman who takes care of him, but beware that some men may be true gold diggers looking for a free ride or to be taken care of financially, she adds.
Being the breadwinner may not matter to you if, say, he makes an amazing dinner every night so you don’t have to worry about cooking or he’s a great handyman and has updated your entire apartment, but only you can decide that.
“This can de-masculinize a man and make him feel like he’s unable to provide for and protect you.”Even worse, women in this situation may end up being a sugar mamma rather than an equal partner.
“A man can sometimes make his girlfriend feel like more of a mommy-figure than a peer,” Ludwig says.
So don’t be surprised if he chooses hanging with his bros over coming over to your place more often than you’d hope he would.
“Many younger men are more connected with their peers than they are with the idea of being a couple,” explains Naples, FL-based author and relationship columnist April Masini.
” When he says no (which I’m guessing will happen most of the time) say “You just gave me a face that made me think you were offended.” The truth is most men don’t have the confidence or skill to turn the opportunity in to a request for your phone number.
A longer span of time before he’s reaching for the Viagra.
Sure, you’ll have dinner dates, but also be ready for, say, a 10-mile hike one weekend followed by a concert the next.
“They don’t want to miss out on being part of their group, with whom they glean their identity.”Although you may be ready to walk down the aisle, it can be hard to get a younger man to put a ring on it.
“In some cases, a younger guy is developmentally in a different place,” says psychotherapist Robi Ludwig.