You're not asking them to forget their memories, you're simply asking whether they are ready to start a new relationship and take the next step in their life.
If the person you're considering dating decides she or he isn't sure or ready, they need more space and time to recover from their loss.""When I was ready to start dating again after being widowed, I made it clear that I didn't want to speak about my late husband.
If you find yourself getting involved with a person who is bereaved by the death of a spouse, your dating experience is probably going to present some unique challenges. Everybody experiences it in different ways and at different times.
It might be that one widowed person is ready to date again within months, while others may still be struggling to move on years after their spouse has passed away.
If you want this relationship to work, then you're going to have to be understanding of their situation and what they are going through."Unlike in other relationships, your date's late partner remains very much a part of their lives.
You shouldn't be intimidated by it, simply accept and understand it.
If this is the case, then give them a bit of time and space or change the subject.
There's no real closure, especially if the death was sudden.If everything is out on the table, then you'll be in a better situation to move on.Whilst openness does not necessarily mean a 'clean slate' (they will not and should not have to forget their last partner), it will allow you to begin a 'new chapter'.This means choosing your words carefully when talking about their late spouse.Additionally, you must respect that there will be some times when your partner will just want to be alone, or won't want to talk about how they are feeling.This can be very daunting and difficult, but if you are strong enough to face up to the fact that your partner's late spouse's family is their family too, then it can be a really positive experience."More often than not, the family will really appreciate that you are letting them be a part of your life.Accept those nuances as a part of your prospective (or current) partner's life, and you'll really be appreciated for your efforts." Above all, understand that this relationship simply can't be compared to any other, and therefore all the usual dating 'rules' are out the window.The best thing you can do is just be there, and the rest will work itself out in time.Both of you need to sit down with the children (only once you decide to get serious) and explain that you are not a substitute for the deceased parent, yet given that you are now willing to share their care.It is important not to put any pressure on them, but simply explain 'I am here.