Everyone loves to laugh, and talking about the things that make you both fall into a fit—cheesy pickup lines, dad jokes, a particular You Tube flick—gets the conversation flowing... Lots of laughter on a first date is a great sign, Jones says.This conversation starter can bring a light, playful, untethered feeling into your mix of questions, Jones says.Food is always a safe topic of conversation—and an endless one, too."If sports are big in your life, this will take you into a ton of subtopics," Sullivan says.It's also the perfect way to gauge whether her level of passion is compatible with yours, Jones says. Each of these explanations reveals something about her character."This is a great query because a dream job merges meaning, passion, and lifestyle," Jones explains. If things get a bit awkward or serious, divert to a more carefree topic.Better yet: "Many second date ideas can be born from this question." If you want the conversation to become a bit reflective, thoughtful, and meaningful, this is a great fall-back."Not only do you get to hear about her life story, but the snippet that's most meaningful and important to her," Jones explains.
You can see if your personalities and interests jive, too. "Obviously you'll get an insight on her temperament," Sullivan says.Plus, you won't be blind-sided if you make a movie date and you're stuck sitting through a rom-com.It might seem super particular, but her morning routine is hugely revealing.Good: You can see if she has a tight bond with her parents or siblings. "The five people we're around the most, shape us the most; her relationship to any one of her closest friends and family members tell you a lot about her," Jones says Waiting to be seated at your table or for your waiter to arrive?Break the ice with a simple, straight-forward question like this. All these alternatives offer "insight into her lifestyle, taste, and knowledge about other cultures." Sullivan says.She'll get a little reminiscent with this conversation starter. And who knows, maybe you went to the same camp or vacation spot each summer."It's fun to see what you might have had in common as kids," Jones says You'll learn about the people closest to her in life.But you'll also be able to reign in any bad habits that might prevent you from nabbing a second date."Her answer will reveal whether she has a dark, goofy, nerdy, romantic, sappy, or quirky side," Sullivan says.If there's one thing that can ruin a first date and ensure a woman's first impression of you is a bad one, it's crappy conversation.You need ice breakers, light-hearted queries, questions that provoke banter, laughter, and thought, as well as questions that dig a bit deeper and go beyond the superficial. If she hates planes, road trips, or has no desire to leave her hometown ever, that's a good indicator of her ambitions and desires (or lackthereof).