It's this kind of exoticizing and tokenization that inspired Johnson to make the documentary. I've dated men of all colors, shapes and sizes, but it seemed that white men habitually said reckless, racist things to me as part of their approach," Johnson told One reason such pickup lines are so insidious is because they play on long-established stereotypes of the black gay community.
"I guess the biggest stereotype is that black men are just penises with Timberlands attached, and that whatever we have to offer sexually is our only value," Johnson told ."For the black gay community, the self-imposed stereotype is that there's only one way to be a gay black man.
So isn't it worth at least asking how society might be shaping our individual preferences?
" Johnson hopes his work will raise awareness for anyone dealing with the pitfalls of interracial dating.
For white gay men on the site, 43% said they would strongly prefer to date someone of the same racial background as them.
For black gay men, just 6% expressed such a preference.
Part of that, he said, will begin with his own self-acceptance to undo the damage years of dating stereotypes have brought on him."I want people to take away from this work that this is real, that it doesn't 'happen to everyone,'" Johnson explained to .
"It's probably happened to your black gay friend, the black girl at your office, your Latina friend, or the Asian girl you messaged on Ok Cupid.
One man in the video recounted the night he was approached and told, "Oh my gosh, I've totally never dated a black person before, but if I did, I'd totally get with you." Johnson remembered the time a man put his hand on his shoulder outside a club and said, "You know, Cameron, I'm really into mulatto guys." "You know what, I'm not really into ethnic guys," another participant once heard.
"I have never been one who has had a lot of luck with online dating apps.
There seems to be a desire for that which isn't me.
I always figured that there would be other guys like me on Grindr. It is unprintable in its original guise, but the subtext was that this ‘gentleman’ was going to come and find me and then forcibly penetrate me whether I liked it or not.
I duly reported him and made the decision that I just didn’t need Grindr in my life. What this all too common sort of unwanted communication illustrates is that whilst gay dating sites provide a useful platform for meeting men you may never otherwise have had access to, they also further diminish the importance of intimacy in favour of instant sexual gratification.