This includes pictures that are clearly intended to be sexy – whether they were taken professionally or simply for fun. My friend Arden Leigh is, among her many jobs, a dating coach and professional model. You’re almost never the first person to suggest that maybe she could be a model or how great her legs look or her boobs.
She takes pride in her sexuality and enjoys posting pics where she feels she looks hot. Even “you’re hot” is lame – unoffensive, relatively speaking, but lame.
For example, instead of saying "Hi, my name is Josh and I think you're pretty"(yawn….yawn…yawn), say something that will take her by surprise and will be remembered.
For example: "I need a woman's point of view: I have been debating about a better gift for my Mom's birthday.
Almost every woman with a social media presence and pictures online has experienced thirsty guys wanting to talk about how she makes his penis feel.
Or the guys who precede trying to talk to women by going through her entire social media presence.
First rule of trying to talk to women social media: leave your dick out of it. Of course, this inevitably leads to complaints about how “guys can’t compliment women any more.” In fact, I’m glad you brought that up, convenient rhetorical device…
What follows is a week-long self whipping and thrashing. If you are staring at a cute guy across the subway car thinking of different reasons why he will reject you, he will reject you, because your product is not convincing enough. Think of it this way: this person is not rejecting you; they don't even know you. What skills/education did you need to become a bartender? Once you are immune to it, rejection will no longer be a deterrent to approaching strangers.But as social media continues to become our main form of communication, it feels incumbent upon me to give some guidelines on how to thirst online responsibly.Here’s how you can talk to women online without being a creeper in the process.Case in point, she recently shared this picture on Facebook: Nor does it matter that this friend of a friend posted a picture of herself in a bikini or this person you follow on Instagram blogged her party outfit with the deep cleavage. It shows absolutely no imagination, creativity or confidence.Giving a compliment about women’s looks online also tends to carry the unspoken “…so be grateful” appended to the end. Complimenting her becomes less about praise and more about giving their approval.At the same time, being friends with them gave me a front row seat to the horny dudes hitting on them.Of course, this behavior isn’t restricted to women in the public eye.The other thing about complimenting a woman’s looks is that you’re signalling that you really don’t know anything about her that isn’t all surface.Most attractive people put a significant amount of work into looking good; complimenting someone’s looks is complimenting the end result but without noting the effort it took.