In the fading twilight, the headlights of an approaching car reminded Bill to reach for the dashboard and turn on his lights.
As the horde of rush-hour cars streamed by, Bill reminisced about the teenage daughter he had just picked up from band practice.
“Your mom and I just want to make sure you know what you stand for as you get old enough to date. We’re trying to train them to protect their emotions and not to send romantic signals to boys.
And when a young man sends romantic signals to one of our daughters, we’ve talked with him and tried to keep the relationship on a friendship level.
There is a group of Christians that do not believe teens should be dating at all, and there are people on the other side that believe dating is how you know the right person when he or she comes along.
While neither one of you may feel totally comfortable talking about dating, sex, temptation, or feelings, it is important that your teen understands your perspective.Be sure to not just se the rules, but also explain where the ground rules come from.Also, be willing to discuss some exceptions to the rules, like a later curfew when your teen goes to a school dance.It is also important that you listen to your child when he or she speaks.When the two of you understand each other, trust and openness is built up. As you start to notice your teen's growing interest in members of the opposite sex you may want to start thinking about the rules you want to set.They believe that Christian teens should date responsibly and not just date for the sake of dating.Knowing where you fall in the spectrum will help you set rules later. When they start to grow up, they also start to form attachments to members of the opposite sex.While most parents would love their children to stay little forever, eventually the issue of dating will come up.However, even with these guidelines, three out of four of our teens had their first real date to the school prom in their junior year at age 17.And those first dates were all with friends, not with someone with whom they were romantically involved.