She advises not having sex until you’re in a committed, exclusive relationship. “But before you bring someone into your life, or share money or living space, remember they’re bringing baggage.”The person you’re dating is on their best behavior in the beginning, she advised.It gets worse later, not better, so get to know what’s hidden before going too far.If you’re already online, try a different dating site.Good men and good women are everywhere — if you’re looking, noted Bela Gandhi, a TODAY contributor and founder of the Smart Dating Academy in Chicago. When you’re having trouble finding a love connection, it’s all too easy to become discouraged or buy into the destructive myths out there about dating and relationships.
Author's advice to find love It’s important after a divorce or any break-up after a long relationship to take some time to be alone, said Nicole Baras Feuer, a divorce coach with Start Over Smart in Westport, Connecticut.“You will be in better shape to meet the ‘right’ person if you have time to heal, spend time alone to figure out who you are again, reflect on what went wrong,” Feuer said.
RELATED: How to find lifetime love: 10 secrets from couples married for decades You can skip singles events if you don’t like them, but you have to go where you can meet people, Schwartz advised.
Join social groups or meet-ups; be a worker bee in a cause you believe in; get involved in political parties.
However, if you’re ready to share your life with someone and want to build a lasting, worthwhile relationship, life as a single person can also be frustrating.
For many of us, our emotional baggage can make finding the right romantic partner a difficult journey.