He’s supportive, he makes me laugh, he’s not threatened by me and he pushes back when I get bossy.
We have a wonderful marriage and we make each other happy every day.” So she must know a thing or two about getting it right.
Isn’t she just encouraging high-achieving women to marry beneath them?
“I’m saying that you don’t have to put yourself in a gender box,” says Dr Rhodes.
“I kept seeing strong, confident women who were concerned that they had missed the boat, that marriage had eluded them because they had wasted their thirties developing their careers,” she explains.
Ultimately, her thesis is heartening: Mr Good doesn’t have to be Mr Good Enough.
Brilliant, brainy women shouldn’t feel confined to one socio-economic group of partners; they may even find themselves happier and more fulfilled with someone from a very different sphere of life. “I’ve been married for 50 years this summer,” reveals Dr Rhodes, “and I have a great Beta husband; an architect called Robert.
Alpha males, the Don Drapers and Gordon Gekkos, are a centuries-old phenomenon; whereas the Alpha female – who, crucially, embraces her Alpha status – is a relatively new breed, typified by intelligent, self-assured women at the top of their profession: think Angelina Jolie, Anna Wintour and Angela Merkel.
The “Beta” personality type describes a more laid-back, communicative mindset – or, as Dr Rhodes puts it, “a man who is just as comfortable changing nappies as making a presentation at work”.