Beyer's biggest tip for the reluctant dater is "to take a time out from dating altogether.If your mood is negative and your outlook gloomy, you'll only attract all the wrong people (or no one at all.)" This might also be a perfect time to cultivate yourself. Expedite the process There are many phone apps such as Tinder or Coffee Meets Bagel which make it easy to make contact.Like most women our age, we were career-minded with our own apartments, but we also wanted to get married.So over fried tofu and mixed vegetables, we each brought our dating problems to the table.
We came up with the idea for a self-help dating book called The Rules after many, many dinners with single girlfriends at the now-defunct Sung Chu Mein, a Chinese restaurant on the Upper East Side in New York City—it was sort of like Sex and the City, but before Sex and the City!We began to notice that the women who played hard to get, either deliberately or by accident, were the ones who got the guys, while the women who asked guys out or were too available were the ones who got dumped.We put two and two together, and wrote and wrote, and that’s how The Rules were born!Here are Rules to help you be light and breezy in your e-mails: It all sounds good on paper, but you cannot write “soul mate” and think you will get one that way.A soul mate is someone who responds to your ad, doesn’t give up e-mailing you, tries to get your number to get a date with you and is a loving and fun companion. So beyond looking desperate, it is really a waste of time to write down “waiting for my soul mate” or anything like it.Aside from the immediate benefits you'll gain for yourself, you'll ensure you're on track to finding the right man.3.Start online dating Don't let online dating scare you.Unfortunately, you cannot attract this by writing the word down any more than you can attract wealth by writing down the word “money.” Be patient. In today's world, single women are presented with so many dating options it can be daunting and overwhelming.After all, the only way is up and you may not be single for too much longer.Dating can be fun if you try to approach each encounter as an opportunity to get to know a new person rather than a try-out session for the man of your dreams.